I was reading this and nodding my head until I get to the part where it says that in matters of sexual “compatibility” BOTH partners must compromise. That is a firm no from me. If you aren’t in the mood to have sex, you shouldn’t have to have sex. Ever. That is upholding r*pe culture. And r*pre culture is always toxic. For context, I am the partner with the higher drive in my relationship and I will never want my partner to compromise by having sex when they don’t want to. That is toxic and sets up some awful dynamics- especially for sexual assault survivors.