Stop Saying “Everything Happens for a Reason” — It’s Is A Cruel LIE

Katherine Grace
3 min readDec 24, 2019

YOU are not at fault for the harm others do to you.

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Everything Happens for A Reason — is a LIE.

The message is bullshit. Complete and utter toxic bullshit that is way too prevalent these days.

It is a lie.

A lie being told and sold by high profile guru’s of the New Age and Self Improvement movements.

It’s a lie that destroys hope; tearing apart ‘victims’ instead of helping build them up into survivors.

“Everything happens for a reason and has a purpose, and it serves you.”

Anthony Robbins

Well, really, if Anthony Robbins espouses this viewpoint that there should be a BIG tip off right there!

The truth is that bad, awful, horrible things happen to people every fucking day for no good reason. Period.

I wasn’t raped for a ‘reason’.

“A failed business, a severe illness, divorce, the loss of a loved one, dashed dreams, natural disasters, each is excruciating in its own unique way. But, the idea that life’s unfairness is somehow supposed to be justified by a scripted reason is to me the ultimate abdication of accountability; hell, why mince words, it’s outright lazy.” — Tom Koulopoulos

My blood boils when I think of all the ‘victims’ of sexual assaults being told that because it does nothing but to re-victimize people again and again; sometimes by the very people whose support we need most.

My being raped happened because of a million little reasons that boil down to one singular TRUTH:

Katherine Grace

NeuroDivergent and Disabled Writer. Editor. Survivor.