Yes, the monsters are real and the damage they do lasts a lifetime.

I stayed in my marriage to a narcissist way, way too long because I knew about his trauma and kept buying his lies about doing the healing work needed to be someone healthy and safe to spend a life with. But you what?

A true narcissist literally cannot do the healing work because the very construct of their disorder is the need to hide any and all of their perceived faults and weaknesses.

They are monsters and this piece does nothing but support them. It's shameful.